It's just stuff....

littlepetimp:

Yes. Yes yes yes yes yes.

subbieblackgrl:

I totally agree with this.  I cannot just “play.”  BDSM is too serious for me and it’s all about the journey.

fringeofdarkness:

On The Journey.

There is much dialog in the BDSM world on the topic of “play” - a very casual, non-intimate way to engage.  Dominants and submissives set up “play dates”, “play parties”, and the like.  

I feel those who mainly engage in “play” can miss a great deal.  Roping techniques and toy bags are fun. People can learn and enjoy each other’s company.  Munches and conferences can be fantastic.

I feel, however, that a true BDSM experience is a journey a submissive undertakes with her Dominant.  He takes the time to explore her wants, needs, hopes, and desires.  He reaches deep and uncovers her true center - the place she longs to be. And he dances with her - on the fringe of darkness.

A girl on a journey can feel as if she is entering a strange, dark hallway.  She does not know the path ahead, nor does she know of the challenges and/or thrills she may face.  She knows only that she is drawn there - by her Dominant.

Come to me, girl.